You love each other. So why does it keep feeling like this?
You're not here because your relationship has completely fallen apart. You're here because you care about it — and something has shifted. The conversations that used to flow feel loaded now. You're sleeping in the same bed but living in parallel. You've tried talking about it and somehow ended up further apart.
The same fight, different day
Most couples who come to us aren't in crisis. They're high-functioning people who are good at life — careers, kids, responsibilities — but somewhere along the way the two of them got lost in it.
You've probably already tried to fix it. You've had the conversations. Maybe you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, know your attachment style. And you're still having the same fight.
That's not a failure of effort. It's a signal that what's happening underneath the argument is more important than the argument itself. The fight about dishes or work or who does more — it's rarely actually about that.
How we work
We use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) — one of the most well-researched approaches in couples work. EFCT gets underneath the patterns to what's actually driving them: the attachment needs, the moments of feeling unseen or not enough, the ways two people who love each other can make each other feel completely alone.
It's not about communication scripts or fair fighting rules. It's about helping you understand what's really happening between you — and finding your way back to each other from there.
Sessions are real. We're not going to nod and ask how that makes you feel. We're genuinely curious about you as a couple, we'll move at a pace that fits you, and we won't make it heavier than it needs to be.
Who we work with
We work best with couples who:
— Care deeply about their relationship and are ready to do something about it
— Are high-functioning but feel disconnected — like roommates, co-parents, or strangers who used to know each other
— Have tried talking it out and keep ending up in the same place
— Want real work, not just a space to vent
— Are looking for a therapist who can actually keep up with them
We also work with couples where one or both partners have ADHD — which adds a layer to disconnection that most couples therapists aren't equipped to navigate. We are.
Meet your couples therapists
Michelle, Jess, and Danielle all work with couples at Diagonal House. We collaborate closely, which means whoever you work with has the full weight of the practice behind them.
If your relationship matters to you — and it clearly does, or you wouldn't be here — that's enough to start.